So this is really for our male readers (although the pics are definitely geared to our female readers).  There has been a debate for sometime about rather or not SEXY is something you are born with or something that can be taught or learned. In my opinion, it is a combination of both. On the “born with it” end, you have people like Denzel Washington, Halle Barry, and Eric Benet. But on the “taught or learned” end you have people like Kanye West, Lil' Wayne, Taraji Henson, and Golden Brooks.

So here at IP, we decided to poll our readers and come up with the most important contributing attributes to a man’s SEXINESS. After hundreds of replies, the following attributes clearly rose to the top of our list.

Fellas, if you simply work on this list you too can be the next Diddy, Denzel, or Boris!!!

Swagger/ Charisma/ Self Confidence: The Urban Dictionary defines “swagga” as “one's own unique style or personality that sets them apart from anyone else”.

P Diddy - Music Mogul

With 21.4% of our respondents ranking this attribute as “sexy”, this clearly is the most important. Examples of such are: Ray J and P Diddy.

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Ray J - Soul Singer/ Actor

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Sense of Humor: Readers Digest says “Little can compare to the feeling of a deep, complete, heartfelt laughing spell.

Jamie Fox - Comedian, Actor, Soul Singer

No matter your age, wealth, race, or living situation, life is good when laughter is frequent”. I have found that a sense of humor will go along way in not only relationships but also in the workplace. With 14.3% of our peeps giving “Sense of Humor” the thumbs up, it is number two. Examples are: Jamie Foxx and Katt Williams.

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Katt Williams the Modern Day P I M P

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Well Dressed/ Well Groomed (Shoes & Nails): Answers.com defines Well Groomed as “Attentive to details of dress; meticulously neat, carefully tended or curried, trim and tidy”.

Pastor J of Higher Dimension Church in Houston, TX

Well Dressed is all about being fashion savvy. Knowing what to wear and when to wear it. Attention to details is the key. Clearly a number of women pay attention to the little things like shoes and nails. Bad taste or insufficient grooming may lead a woman to have a less than desirable impression of a man. With 14.3%, this is number 3. Examples are Dwayne Wade and Pastor J of Higher Dimensions in Houston, TX.

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Dwayne Wade - NBA Basketball Player

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Physique/ Build (Preference: Athletic): So may be back in the day a brother could get away with a round tubby and blame it on “good living”.

LL in Combat Gear

NO SIR, this is no longer the case! Women expect men to care just as much about their physical appearance as women are expected to care about their own.  Recently we have seen many Male Celebrity physical makeovers like Timberland, Dr. Dre and Young Jeezy. It’s time to step up your game. With 11.9% of the vote, this is a strong number 4. Examples are LL Cool J and Reggie Bush.

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Reggie Bush - NFL Football Player

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Intelligence (Book and Street Smart): There is not a woman I know that wants a dummy.  Ladies want to be intellectually stimulated as well as emotionally and physically stimulated.

Jeff Johnson of BET's "The Truth"

And we're talking both Book and Street smart. Women like a hustler who is always on there game. You are buying a car? Call the street smart cat, cuz you can’t hustle a hustler. Need a stock recommendation, call the book smart man, if he doesn’t know the answer then he is certainly resourceful enough to figure it out. With 11.9% of the vote, this is a strong number 5. Examples are Common and BET Host of “The Truth”: Jeff Johnson. 

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Spirituality: Women love a spiritual man. If a woman was to rank the top men in her life, it would go something like this: 1) God 2) Her Daddy 3) Her Pastor. There is a reason that most Preachers are smooth talking, nice dressing, reformed Pimps (LOL, just kidding). Seriously, the spiritual foundation in the home is supposed to be dictated by the man of the house. Start by trying to just make it to church on Sundays, then mix in an occasional Wednesday night bible study. You will be blessed and at the same time be surrounded by beautiful women. With 9.5%, this was a lofty number 6 choice. Examples are Rev Run, BET Inspiration Host – Gerard Henry, and Pastor Hartwell of Houston, TX. 

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Handsome/ Beautiful Smile: Okay so here is where the rubber meets the road. This is one attribute that you are born with BUT you can influence it.

Boris Kojoe - Actor

You may not have the deep understanding eyes of Denzel Washington or the skin tone of Morris Chestnut but, you can enhance certain attributes like: Get a stylish hair cut weekly, whiten and straighten your teeth, ensure that your skin is clear of acne, etc. A lot of women actually can overlook this attribute to a certain degree, but it obviously plays a big part in being Sexy with 7.1% of the vote. Examples are Boris Kojoe, Denzel Washington, and Morris Chestnut.

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Sexy Voice (Deep, Soothing, etc.): Can you say Luther? Teddy? Gerald? Issac? Johnny? Barry? Michael (ha, ha, just kidding). As African Americans, we normally are blessed in this area.

Eric Benet - Soul Singer

I don’t know if it is genetics, hereditary or what but a lot of African American males just have deep sexy voices. Okay so for those of you who grew up around a lot of females and your voice tends to rise when you get excited…STOP THAT SHIT! It isn’t cool. Lower your voice and talk with authority. If you tell a woman in a deep strong and soothing tone what you want…you just might get it. With 7.1% of the vote, this was another strong requirement.   Examples are Eric Benet, Raheem DeVaughn, Madd Hatta

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Raheem DeVaughn - Soul Singer

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Madd Hatta of Houston's KBxx 97.9FM

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Chivalry: …ain’t dead. It’s not overrated. A woman wants nothing more than to feel like a Queen. That means: Opening her door and allowing her walk through first,

Terrence Howard - Actor

letting her order her meal first, complimenting her on her outfit, offering your chair to a lady when no others are available, carrying a ladies baggage, etc.  Now being in the “Dirty, Dirty”, Southern Hospitality can be sometimes taken for granted. My momma taught me to be a chivalrous man, but in many other places some good ‘ol chivalrous behavior is hard to come by. Fellas, this one is easy, and it goes a long way. With 2.4% of the vote, it rounds out our list.  Examples are Don Cheadle and Terrence Howard. 

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Don Cheadle

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Many other attributes were mentioned, but none as frequently and consistently as the ones above. We would love to see your comments. Let us know below if you agree with our list!

Holla!

SEXY ATTRIBUTES	Weight
Self Confidence - Charisma	21.4%
Sense of Humor	14.3%
Well Dressed/ Well Groomed (Shoes & Nails)	14.3%
Physique - Athletic Build	11.9%
Intelligence - Book Smart and Street Smart	11.9%
Spirtiuality	9.5%
Smile - Beautiful, Handsome, etc.	7.1%
Sexy Voice - Deep, Soothing, Etc.	7.1%
Chivalry	2.4%
TOTAL	100%