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Why Women Marry Less Attractive Men
By http://www.livescience.com/health/080410-couples-beauty.html
Jun 25, 2008 - 5:33:43 PM

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Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.

The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband.

Researchers admit that looks are subjective, but studies show there are some universal standards, including large eyes, "baby face" features, symmetric faces, so-called average faces, and specific waist-hip ratios in men versus women.

Past research has shown that individuals with comparable stunning looks are attracted to each other and once they hook up they report greater relationship satisfaction. These studies, however, are mainly based on new couples, showing that absolute beauty is important in the earliest stages of couple-hood, said lead researcher James McNulty of the University of Tennessee. But the role of physical attractiveness in well-established partnerships, such as marriage, is somewhat of a mystery.

The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.

Supportive spouses

McNulty's team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years prior to tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.

Researchers videotaped as each spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners were supportive of spouses' issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more often.

"A negative husband would've said, 'This is your problem, you deal with it,'" McNulty said, "versus 'Hey, I'm here for you; what do you want me to do?; how can I help you?'"

A group of trained "coders" rated the facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks.

Trophy wives

Overall, wives and husbands behaved more positively when the woman was better looking.

The finding "seems very reasonable," said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral economics at MIT's Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management. "Men are very sensitive to women's attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men's height and salary," said Ariely, who was not involved in the recent study.

In couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one another. McNulty suggests wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands.

"The husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get," McNulty told LiveScience. "He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship."

Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, McNulty said. The "grass could be greener" mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage.

Physical attractiveness of husbands is not as important to women, the researchers suggest. Rather, wives are looking for supportive husbands, they say.

So it seems the mismatch in looks is actually a perfect match. "Equitable is unlikely to mean the same on every dimension," Ariely said during a telephone interview. "It just means that overall two people make sense together."


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Comments

I think...
27 Jun 2008, 09:16
that Eddie George is the pretty one in his marriage. HA!
Ms Ro
27 Jun 2008, 11:34
Love does not have an appearence. Love is selfless, giving and kind. Give my an ugly dude any day and I'll give him all the love and attention that he's been missing all of his life from a women. Most women don't care what a man looks like and how he dresses. Don't get me wrong, I like to see a well dressed brother but that's not the only thing important. I don't want a wolf in sheeps clothing. As long as he can be faithful and good to me, I'm happy. The very attractive guys I've dated in the past were some of the worst ones to be with, but the less attractive guys were so sweet to me. Attractive men are stuck on themselves and think that every women that lays eyes on them want them and that's not so. They are only eye candy to be approached with caution.

TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WISH TO BE TREATED!!!!!
Ms. Jones
27 Jun 2008, 12:11
This article hit the nail on the head. Who wants to be w/a guy stuck in the mirror more than you? The woman is the beautiful one in the relationship, not the male! I agree, a less attractive man will feel much more secure in himself if he has a "faithful" beautiful woman on his arm. The benefits to the woman in the relationship are immeasurable....
To Ms Ro
27 Jun 2008, 14:06
You must be single!!!! LMAO!
T-Dubb
27 Jun 2008, 14:26
This is a very interesting article. I think that deep down we all want to be with an attractive mate. However, some have been scorned by that so-called prettty boy or "Dime piece" and are willing to lower our standards for happiness and support. Regardless of what is said, Physical attractiveness is the first thing we typically notice in one. After the attraction / honeymoon phase is over, let's hope that a solid foundation has been establised with all the substance needed to make a relationship last.
ROCstar
27 Jun 2008, 22:04
AAAMEN, T-Dubb!

I agree with the article whole-heartedly. Visual stimulation is the intial attraction that is used when viewing the opposite sex, more so with us fellas. Whether she is a "quarter-horse", "dimepiece", "tip-drill" or "rag-a-muffin", it is our personal preferences and experiences that shape and mold our taste in the opposite sex. Apart from the physical appearance, communication is what SHOULD stimulate our interest in a person of interest. Looks only lasts for so long and once it's gone, it's never the same even if U purchase some it back. As T-Dubb mentioned before, a "substantial foundation" is necessary in any relationship and key to its longevity. I would like to add by saying that a companionship needs to have spiritual roots. I consider myself to be of above average health/wellness and I'm confident in saying that I am a good-looking brother. I don't feel as if it's asking too much in wanting my "future wife" to be equally-yoked with me and having that same confidence and desire of an active lifestyle. That way when I do find her and we establish that "substantial foundation" via communication, we can focus on living and not just growing old together.
ROCstar
27 Jun 2008, 22:07
I know the article says "Sisters Only" but I just had to say something. My apologies for the intervention, ladies.
Shay
01 Jul 2008, 08:39
This has a lot of truth to it!!! Look what happened in All of Halle' marriages where her husbands were labeled as cute!!! Eric Benet and Dave Justice. Back in the day Jane Kennedy and Leon Isaac Kennedy were considered a good looking celebrity couple and Vanessa Williams and Rick Fox also.

Sometimes there is a "POWER STRUGGLE" when both the man and the woman are both attractive. They both want to be the CENTER of all the ATTENTION. And in each of these cases the media sometimes were caught taking more pictures of the men, than the ladies.

There has to be a balance where the man and woman both compliment each other in everything they do as a couple. Then you will have a healthy relationship. Men and women both need and want the support from there partners.

In my book, I as the WOMAN should be the only "QUEEN B" no matter how the man on my arm looks!
chazz
02 Jul 2008, 19:32
well i would like to say i am an attractive lady, but love is in the eye of the beholder. what do less attractive ladies do? what do acttractive men do? oh i guess date each other.
M.B.
19 Jul 2008, 12:33
I do not even understand why its necessary to post such an article posing this question! None of us knows what GOD looks like..which is our savior by the way, however, we still have the ultimate love and respect for him! I think that as individuals grow older in life, they learn that the outer appearance means far less more than whats going on inside. We all need to be stable mentally, emotionally, and spiritually before we can even start to improve physically. This is why some of the most attractive people still appear to be UGLY!! because they have not worked enough on the inner being. So for all you top models that have beautiful faces and stay in the gym, but are still single!!!! Obviously there is something deeper that you need to explore within yourself!! not that guy or girl you consider not attractive enough in your eyes.
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