Normally when I write articles that have the potential to be somewhat controversial, I open them with a apologia. For those that don't know what an apologia is, allow me to explain it to you. According to Webster's dictionary, an apologia is a defense of one's opinions, position, or actions. However in this particular case, no apologia will be offered and no apologies will be said.

So, what is "quality"? Again, let us get some clarity from Webster. Quality is defined as a degree of excellence; superiority in kind; a distinguishing attribute; an acquired skill. These are the traits that my parents told me to look for in a wife. Why is this important?

Sisters must be cautious in the type of attention they bring upon themselves. I'm not some naive little schoolboy that has no clue as to why women dress the way they do. As much as sisters like to say that they dress for themselves, which is bull, because sisters like to dress for the brothers out there as well.  I don't know one woman who does not want to look good enough to capture some of the lime light that the women next to her is getting. There's nothing wrong with a little healthy competition. However, when it goes too far the effects can be felt for generations on down the line.

Again sisters, if the only time a man will give you any attention is when you have to walk around half dressed, that man isn't worth it. You are a queen and should always remember that. Your most prized possession isn't that space in between your legs, it's that inner beauty and grace that only another god like individual can see. Yes, those groups of sisters that go to the club with their breast and asses out do get all of the attention, but what are they saying about themselves and what type of men are they attracting?

I can tell you from experience that when a man approaches you in that state, the only thing on his mind is getting you into his bed and out of his house before the street lights come on. I don't give a damn what any man tells you. He will not take you serious and will only be interested in a sexual relationship (period). Relationships are about an eternal struggle between a man and his woman, so as to perfect each other through trial and error. A man cannot have an eternal struggle with a woman's ass, that's not happening, so stop the madness!!!!

When some brothers see these types of sisters, they tend to include all women in this category. So when that hard working, self-respecting sister goes out for a little fun, she has to deal with brothers grabbing her ass as she walks through a crowd, she has to deal with being called a bitch because she doesn't want to give that brother her phone number, and she must take the chance of being assaulted for standing up for herself in the face of such ignorant men.

This problem can be one to affect generations. When these sisters put themselves on display like this get pregnant and have little girls, what do you think is going to happen? That innocent little girl is going to watch her mother and her mother's friends sell themselves short for a water down drinkS and the next thing you know, you have another 13 year old child in bed with a 30 year old man, simply because he's willing to buy her the clothes that little boys her age aren't able to. And why would she do such a thing? Because all of her life, she witnessed her mom get the things that she wanted out of life by exposing her body or opening her legs.

This is a call out to every sister reading this article. Stop with the self-disrespect. If any man isn't willing to approach you just because you refuse to walk around in a thong (in the name of fashion), then fuck him. You're much better off. And for you sisters that may read this article and get upset with me, I'm sorry but the truth must be told. If you're only important to brothers when you treat yourself like a piece of meat, then maybe you should start hanging around vegetarians.

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