I wanted to discuss why so many African American women are single, you know, in the spirit of Valentine's Day.  Then,  it hit me that really, I should address the true essence of becoming a woman.  I have noticed in this world of dating that many single sisters take on the attitude of something may be "wrong" with them or that they are not enough, while some married sisters feed off of that energy. These sisters entertain the idea that they are validated by the fact that they have been able to find "the one" and "lock him down."  This is a reoccurring social chain that has been repetitive throughout time. 

I recall attending one of the most important events in my life, and the question was asked to me, "What is your definition of a woman?" and my response was, "A woman is a person who makes rational decisions." Oh... if I could turn back the hands of time, I would change that answer. I would say, "A woman is not only a rational decision maker, but she is validated by the core of her TRUE self, she represents the epitome of who SHE is. Not who others deem her to be."

It is so cliché now to feel inadequate if you are single.  Being married or in a relationship does not suddenly give you a pass in becoming a woman. I am here to tell every single sister that, there is nothing wrong with you because you have not found your mate in life. There is nothing inadequate about you nor how you date.  There is no secret to dating that the married sisters have figured out, none of that! Men are simple!!! THERE IS NO SECRET. "Stop allowing your status dictate your purpose." Women, you are more than a white gown, a picket fence, a dog and two kids...oh...and the husband! You are an individual with value, and when you know who you are, married or single, then you have found the true essence of womanhood. Contact me at Lorie@isispages.com